In case you missed it, there’s been a change in tactics in the past week by those who oppose Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone. I’ve seen the idea floated here and there, but it has suddenly become a lot more common. They finally faced the facts that the old tactics weren’t working, so they’re desperately trying to find a new face on which they can slap a “victim” t-shirt. Guess what? The new tactics aren’t going to work either. They’ve got the wrong victim of the crime or, at least, they’ve got the wrong reason. Let me explain the new focus in their own words:
Teacher Nell Jeffrey of Sacred Heart Cathedral took the microphone and told about a student who had been conceived through in vitro fertilization.
“Is she the product of evil?” Jeffrey asked the crowd gathered at archdiocese headquarters near St. Mary’s Cathedral, which roared its disapproval. “The answer is absolutely not!” Jeffrey said to applause. “She is a product of God!” (http://www.sfgate.com/news/article/Hundreds-protest-S-F-archbishop-s-push-on-6227635.php)
Apparently, the new tactic is to parade all the kids they can find who were conceived by in vitro fertilization and tell how the Archbishop says they are a “product of evil” as if they are the spawn of the devil. Of course, it’s not even remotely true! Let me again explain to those of you who oppose the teachings of the Church what those teachings actually are, since you seem so woefully ignorant of them.
First, “product of God” is so wrong. When does the Church refer to any of us that way, regardless of how we were conceived? It doesn’t. I think Christ was the only “product of God” and we are definitely not him. Why is this important? This phrase was used by a teacher at Sacred Heart Prep, a teacher who either doesn’t have a clue about the teachings of the Church or is willing to distort them to advance her agenda. Here’s the kicker. Wait for it! She’s a religious studies instructor!!! (http://www.shcp.edu/staff/ms-nell-jeffrey/)
Next, let’s remember, this little club opposed to the Archbishop is also against saying abortion is evil. They push for access to abortion for victims of rape, because that is somehow the fault of the child conceived. Can you say “hypocrites?” Which organization has time and time again said that it doesn’t matter how a child is conceived, they are all precious in God’s eyes? Oh, yeah, that would be the Catholic Church.
The Church never never never ever (Is that enough emphasis for you?) says that the sinful act of how a child was conceived – whether rape, in vitro, or out-of-wedlock – actually makes the child any less precious or in any way culpable for the actions of his/her parents. Children are always precious in the eyes of God and nobody else is suggesting otherwise – well, nobody except those wanting to overthrow the Archbishop. It’s really, really despicable to use children in this manner.
So, how are we to answer this latest charge? Talking about Natural Law and embryos, though all Truth, isn’t going to do a darn thing. Why? Because for many, if you can’t see it, it’s not there. They couldn’t care less about teachings of the Church such as Natural Law. We must show them the victims they can see and can’t deny.
We cannot ignore those children whose parents and the medical profession have so callously disregarded, either by having them frozen or destroyed, or by employing fetal reduction (killing some babies implanted so that the pregnancy will “have a better chance”) – all situations purposely created where a child had to die in some manner. These children need someone to stand up for them, since their parents haven’t. Sadly, the Archbishop, and the Church for that matter, care more for these children than their own parents. Even more sadly, these parents will someday have to face these children and the consequences of their actions. The Archbishop also knows this and is trying to keep more parents and children from this fate. These parents also don’t understand God and Natural Law at all, and the teachers at our Catholic schools don’t help (see above). Therefore, we need to point to the more visible victims of IVF, because society is too blind to see these little ones.
Remember when society used to feel bad for the orphaned? Remember all the movies made about orphans or lost children and their struggles to find their families, or at least a home? Does Shirley Temple ring a bell? That feeling, of course, went out the window with IVF. Now we get movies like “Delivery Man”. And before anyone says anything about demonizing adoption, the Church doesn’t do that, either. It’s best that children are raised by their biological parents, but adoptive moms and dads are the next best thing, and we applaud them!
We all have an inherent desire to know our biological parents, siblings, and from where our history lies. Most often, IVF children are deprived of this in part or in total. For them, there is an internal longing that can’t be satisfied. This longing was created by some people who never gave an ounce of thought to anything more than their selfish desire for a baby any way they could get one. Biological moms or dads are instead named donor # such and such. Children born of IVF often have full or half siblings they don’t even know about. One incredibly horrific thing to think about is many are in the same geographic area of the fertility clinic, and when they get older, they never really know who they are dating. Think about it! Do you realize that DNA tests may be needed before marriage just to make sure these children aren’t marrying a sibling, and that a lot more heartache might come of this? Maybe that’s why the predicted push for approval of incest is on the rise. It had to happen, because this is what you get when you ignore Natural Law.
If you deny that children have a longing for their biological parents or that it’s detrimental, you are in denial! Get your clueless head out of the sand and stop saying, “Life’s great because couple so-and-so got a baby!” That baby is no less precious in God’s eyes, but you need to acknowledge the death, destruction, longing to fill voids, and even potential incest that follows in the IVF wake. We’ve all seen news reports of the children of donor X getting together for picnics to get to know their siblings. We’ve also heard the reports of these kids trying to find their parents. It’s sad that people did this to them. Those who support the Archbishop need to get a grasp on this topic. I highly suggest watching this video and supporting this organization: http://www.anonymousfathersday.com/
Another visible victim? If you want to talk about a “War on Women”, this is it: egg donors! Thousands and thousands of young women are being preyed upon for their eggs. Don’t believe me? Look on Craigslist (and by the way, drop Craig a note on this one!). How about trying to get them to rent out their womb for surrogacy? It’s sickening! They are also targeting college campuses for these girls. I have a friend whose daughter was seduced (the perfect word!) by the fast cash of egg donation, and was physically and mentally harmed by it. They are being told “no big deal”, “easy money”, etc. Well, ladies, it is a big deal and has a huge rate of irreparable harm to women’s bodies and fertility through the egg harvesting process. There are also the women out there who only realize later that they have children out there who they don’t have any legal right to know. Please make sure that you and your girls watch this movie by the same organization, The Center for Bioethics and Culture: http://www.eggsploitation.com/
So, yeah, the Church and Archbishop Cordileone in all their wisdom know the evil outcome of ignoring Natural Law, even if the opposition doesn’t. The Archbishop’s priority is to keep this harm as far from his people as he can. I dare you watch the above videos and tell me it’s wrong for Archbishop Cordileone and the Catholic Church to oppose IVF. If you can, well then, quite frankly, you’re a selfish idiot!
If you’ve engaged in IVF or any part of it, please seek counsel in confession. It’s likely nobody ever bothered to tell you the reality of it. The Church can help you and your children deal with it! Like I’ve said before, we all sin. The worst idea ever is to say, “Nah, it’s not a sin because I don’t think it is”, and then try to go on with your life. Whatever you do, please don’t burden your children with your sins if you haven’t already. Don’t let your obstinate desire to avoid guilt be their cross. For heaven’s sake, who has to sit down and have a conversation with their children about how they were conceived? Most of us talk to our children about the facts of life, but the saner parents don’t say “Hey honey! Let’s talk about your conception.” The sense of private seems to go out the window with some.
To the faithful blog followers – I’m sorry the sarcasm is low in this one. It’s hard to use the normal dose of humor when children’s lives are involved. Please study and learn how to answer this topic, because those opposed to the teachings of the Church are trying to make this the condemnation de jour. We have to stop being reduced to silence when someone points to a child of IVF. They’re the ones who are wrong for using them to promote their agenda in the first place!